Inā he kanaka hoʻokalakupua ʻoe, me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe i kūleʻa i ka hana, maopopo wau iā ʻoe!
He manaʻo maʻamau paha ia ma nā wahi hana e hauʻoli ai ka poʻe introverts i ke koʻikoʻi a me nā pōmaikaʻi. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ke kumu e loaʻa ai i nā introverts nā mea maikaʻi aʻe ma ka hana ma muli o kā lākou hiki ʻōlelo a me ka hilinaʻi. ʻOiai e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e hilinaʻi nui nā hui i nā extroverts, e kahaha paha ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole i emi iki nā introverts ma mua o kahi gem.
Wahi a ka mea kākau ʻAmelika a me ke kumu aʻo ʻo Susan Cain, "Ua alohi nā mea a pau, hāʻawi ʻia i ke kukui kūpono."
Ma ke ʻano he introvert i hōʻike ʻia iā ia iho, hoʻohui ʻo Susan, "ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi e hoʻonohonoho i ka hui ma kahi ala e hoʻopau ai i ka ikaika o ka hapalua o ka heluna kanaka. Ua ʻike mākou i kēia me nā wahine i nā makahiki i hala aku nei, a ʻo kēia ka manawa e ʻike ai me nā introverts. A i ko mākou mālamalama, ke noʻonoʻo nei ka honua i kēia manawa. "
ʻO nā limahana a me nā ʻoihana hana ikaika e hana i nā mea ma o kā lākou hakakā a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ke ala kūpono hiki ke ʻoi aku ma mua o ka poʻe me nā ʻano extroverted.
Ua hele lōʻihi aku ka nui o nā introverts a puni mākou a ʻaʻole i ʻae i ka poʻe e hoʻohana pono i kā lākou nānā ʻana.
Inā makemake ʻoe i ka kūleʻa ma ke ʻano he introvert, makemake nui wau e heluhelu i ka mea āpau!
ʻO ka hoʻoikaika kino!
E haʻi mua mākou iā ʻoe e pili ana i kahi introvert nāna e hoʻomalu i ka honua i kēia lā!
He aha inā wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe ʻo ka lua o ke kanaka waiwai nui he introvert? Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kahaha i kēia manawa, akā hiki nō ʻoe ma laila!
Elon Musk ua lei aliʻi ʻo ia i ke kanaka waiwai loa, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻokaʻawale i kāna huakaʻi.
Ua ʻōlelo ka mea nona ka piliona piliona ʻo Tesla i kahi ninaninau i hoʻokahi manawa, "Ua like wau me kahi ʻenekini introverted, no laila ua nui ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana e hiki ke piʻi i luna o ke kahua a ʻaʻole hoʻi e ʻakaʻaka wale nō… i.”
E lawe mai Elon, "Inā nui ka mea nui, e hana ʻoe inā ʻaʻole i makemake ʻia nā pilikia." ʻO ka holomua ma kāu wahi hana ke noi aku nei iā ʻoe e hāʻawi i kāu mea maikaʻi loa, ʻoiai inā ʻoe e manaʻo nei he pōmaikaʻi nā extroverts.
He aha ka mea e hooki ai i nā Introverts mai ka hana ʻana ma ka hana?
ʻO ka pane wale nō, "ʻAʻohe mea." ʻAe, ʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke hoʻōki i nā introverts mai ka hana ʻokoʻa ma ka hana.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hōʻole i kekahi mau manawa e uhi ai nā extroverts i loko o kahi hui i nā limahana haʻahaʻa ʻole, e alakaʻi ana i nā manawa kūpono. No ka ʻike ʻana pehea e kūleʻa ai i ka hana a me ke ola ma ke ʻano he introvert, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i ka mea e hoʻōki ai i ka hiki ke mea nui.
Eia kekahi mau mea e pono ai ʻoe e hana i mea e kūleʻa ai i ka introvert ma ka wahi hana a i ke ola.
ʻO Shyness
Inā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā ʻokoʻa koʻikoʻi ma waena o nā extroverts a me introverts, alakaʻi ka hilinaʻi.
He hilahila ka poʻe introvert a ʻaʻole hilinaʻi e like me ka extroverts. ʻOiai he nui ka poʻe e manaʻoʻiʻo nei i kēia manaʻo, ʻaʻole ia he ʻoiaʻiʻo loa. Kūkulu ʻia nā kānaka ma nā ʻano like ʻole, ʻaʻole pono nā kānaka a pau e hilinaʻi like ʻole.
ʻO ka poʻe me ke ʻano extrovert e hōʻike maikaʻi iā lākou iho, e waiho ana i nā introverts me ka haʻahaʻa iā lākou iho.
Akā pono ʻoe e ʻike e hiki i nā introverts ke hilinaʻi e like me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ia e hele koke.
lehelehe paʻa
Ma ke ʻano he introverts, ʻaʻole i kaupalena ʻia ka hilahila i nā hōʻikeʻike a i ʻole nā hālāwai, akā, ʻo nā kamaʻilio pū ʻana a me nā manawa noʻonoʻo.
Hoʻomaopopo wau i ka paʻakikī o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi ala e pale aku ai i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo i mua o nā mea a pau.
Ma hea ka ʻino? Ke kamaʻilio ʻoe i kahi manaʻo i kahi mehameha, loaʻa iā lākou ka mahalo o ka hōʻike ʻana i ka hālāwai. ʻO ka lilo ʻana i mea hoʻokalakupua e hele mai me ka paʻa ʻole, e mālama iā ʻoe mai ka nui o nā manawa e pōmaikaʻi ai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Pāʻokoʻa
ʻAʻole kūʻē ka poʻe introverts, akā ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka poʻe e ʻike ai iā lākou. E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e hele ana ʻoe me kāu mau hoaaloha a loaʻa ka manawa o kou ola, pehea lā e kapa ai kekahi iā ʻoe he anti-social?
Akā, ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka poʻe a puni ʻoe e launa pū ma waho o kāu pōʻai hoaaloha e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana o kekahi.
ʻAʻole ʻokoʻa ka pilikanaka i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pūʻulu o nā poʻe e launa pū me, akā e launa pū. Ua wehewehe ʻia ʻo Sociable "ʻO kekahi mea hiki ke maʻalahi i ka pilina. Hiki iā ia ke kamaʻilio lōʻihi me nā kānaka. "
He kūlohelohe kēia mau ʻano a pau i nā introverts a ʻaʻole hiki ke poina. ʻO ka hilahila, ka lehelehe, a me ka makemake ʻole e launa pū me nā kānaka, ʻo ia ke koho pilikino a ke kanaka a ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokau ʻia.
Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoe e noho ana ma kou noho ʻoluʻolu a e ʻimi ana i ka kūleʻa ma ka hana a me ke ola ma ke ʻano he introvert, manaʻo wau makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻololi iki iā ʻoe iho.
Pehea e kūleʻa ai i ka hana a me ke ola ma ke ʻano he Introvert
Ke lilo nei au i mea introvert iaʻu iho, maopopo iaʻu e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, "Akā, ʻeā, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻololi i kekahi mea e pili ana i ke ʻano introvert."
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka noho ʻana ma kahi kūlana ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo. Ua maikaʻi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hele i waho e aloha a kamaʻilio me nā mea a pau o ka lumi.
Akā, aia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maʻalahi-lemon e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana e hui pū me ka hui extrovert ma kāu wahi hana ʻoiai ʻo ʻoe iho!
Smile
Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i ka mea āu i aloha nui ai ma ka hana, e kamaʻilio ana me nā mea a pau me ka ʻakaʻaka nui ma kona mau maka?
Loaʻa iā ʻoe! Makemake nā kānaka a pau iā ia ma muli o kēlā ʻakaʻaka āna e lawe nei ma kona alo.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Kenneth Branagh, a ke haʻi aku nei au, "E hoʻomālamalama, e hauʻoli wale i ke ola, e ʻakaʻaka hou, e ʻakaʻaka hou aʻe, a mai hoʻoikaika nui i nā mea."
ʻO ka ʻakaʻaka ke ala maʻalahi loa e launa pū ai, akā ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa.
No ke aha ʻoe i manaʻo ai ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o nā extroverts? Kamaʻilio lākou me nā kānaka, a inā ʻaʻole ko lākou alelo, ʻōlelo ko lākou mau lehelehe. Makemake mākou a pau i ka ʻakaʻaka, no laila no ke aha e hoʻohana ʻole ai iā ʻoe e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe iho ma kahi hana.
E aʻo
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole lawa ka ʻakaʻaka wale ʻana a pono ʻoe e hana hou aʻe, e hele! E hana i kou lumi moe i ke kahua a hoʻomaʻamaʻa i mua o ke aniani.
Ke kamaʻilio nei ʻoe i kekahi mea kaulana introvert kūleʻa, a e ʻike ʻoe he mea like lākou a pau - hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
Hoʻomaʻamaʻa lākou no nā hola a me nā hola e loaʻa ai kahi hiʻohiʻona kūpono a i ʻole e hoʻomākaukau ai no hoʻokahi nīnauele. Akā ʻo ka mea nui, ua loaʻa iā lākou ka maikaʻi ma ka hopena!
Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hālāwai koʻikoʻi e hiki mai ana kahi āu e manaʻo ai e kau i kahi mea ma ka papa - hoʻomaʻamaʻa! E nīnau iā ʻoe iho i nā nīnau a pane me ka hilinaʻi.
E hana i nā papahana hoʻokahi
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Pablo Picasso, "Inā ʻaʻole mehameha nui, ʻaʻohe hana koʻikoʻi e hiki.” ʻOiai ʻaʻole mākou i manaʻo ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā extroverts i ka hana, maikaʻi nō hoʻi nā introverts! He ʻokoʻa ka wikiwiki o ka hana a kēlā me kēia limahana ma kahi hana a hoʻokō ʻia kā lākou hana.
Hiki ke kōkua nui ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana me kou haku no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke noi iā lākou e ʻae iā ʻoe i nā papahana pākahi.
Ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe i kou hilinaʻi ʻana ma kahi papahana, ʻaʻole lākou e kānalua e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi hui ʻole.
E hana i ka mea maikaʻi loa ma nā papahana solo e haʻalele i nā hui hui a me nā hālāwai kūkākūkā me nā limahana ʻē aʻe. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia ke ala maikaʻi loa, hiki iā ia ke pōmaikaʻi iā ʻoe i ka wā e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi.
ʻŌlelo ʻuʻuku, ʻōlelo pololei
Wahi a kekahi ʻōlelo ʻōlelo, pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo, akā e ʻōlelo pololei. A noʻonoʻo wau i kekahi manawa inā i manaʻo nui ʻia ia no mākou, introverts.
ʻAʻole ia ka helu o nā huaʻōlelo āu e ʻōlelo ai, akā ʻo ka waiwai a lākou e hoʻohui ai.
'Ōlelo kekahi poʻe i ka lā a pau i ka hana a me nā pāʻina, akā ʻaʻohe manaʻo. ʻOiai kekahi poʻe e ʻōlelo hoʻokahi wale nō a ʻaihue i ka hōʻike. Hiki iā ʻoe ke "kekahi."
ʻO kahi ʻōlelo kaulana loa ʻo Bob Newhart e ʻōlelo nei, "He minimalist wau. Makemake au e ʻōlelo me ka liʻiliʻi loa. " A no ke aha e hoʻoikaika nui ai i ka ʻōlelo ʻana inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā me kēia me nā huaʻōlelo liʻiliʻi.
Nana & Hoolohe
Manaʻo ka hapa nui o ka nānā ʻana, akā ʻaʻole maoli. Ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia me nā extroverts, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka nānā ʻana o ka introverts, a ke hoʻohana ʻia ma ke ala kūpono, hiki i kēia mākaukau ke pōmaikaʻi nui iā ʻoe.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i nā poʻe a puni iaʻu a me kā lākou mau pilina hana e nānā pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili i kekahi o lākou me ka liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi. ʻO ka nānā ʻana a me ka hoʻolohe ʻana he hui make e kūleʻa i ka wahi hana.
"Maikaʻi maoli ka introverts i ka wā e hoʻolohe pono ai," wahi a Beth Buelow, ka mea kākau o The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms Beth Buelow, e like me TIME.
"Makemake mākou e lilo i hoaaloha a i ʻole hoa hana hiki iā ʻoe ke kelepona i ka wā e huhū ai ʻoe, a i ʻole he nūhou maikaʻi kāu e haʻi aku ai."
Aia ʻoe ma laila e hoʻolohe wale ai, hele mai nā hoa hana iā ʻoe e haʻi i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Hāʻawi ia iā ʻoe e hoʻopili iā lākou me ka hoʻoikaika ʻole.
E noʻonoʻo i kāu Introversion, E ʻike inā he hemahema o ka hilinaʻi
Hiki paha i kou manaʻo o ka introversion ke ʻano o ka nele maoli o ka hilinaʻi.
Mai kuhi hewa ia mea - ʻO ka introversion a me ka nele o ka hilinaʻi ʻelua mau ʻano noʻonoʻo like ʻole.
ʻO ka nele o ka hilinaʻi hiki ke hopena ma muli o ka makaʻu i ke komo ʻana i ka lālani mua, a ʻo ka introversion ke ʻano ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e noho ma ka lālani mua inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ke kikowaena o ka nānā.
Nui nā kumu i manaʻo ai ka poʻe i ka nele o ka hilinaʻi i ka ʻoihana a me ka wahi hana. Hōʻike ka hapa nui o nā hihia ma muli o nā mea ʻelua:
- ʻAʻole ʻike
- Haʻahaʻaina haʻahaʻa iho
ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e kūkulu ai i ka hilinaʻi hou aʻe ʻo ka hoʻomaka ʻana e hana i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kāu mākaukau hana. Ke hoʻomaikaʻi ʻoe i hoʻokahi mākau (a ʻoi aku paha ma mua o hoʻokahi mākaukau, akā ʻo ka mea maʻamau ʻo ia wale nō ke akamai hoʻokahi āu e pono ai e haku), lilo ʻoe i mea egoistic liʻiliʻi. ʻO ka hoʻokiʻekiʻe a me ka haʻaheo i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole ia he hewa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i kou poʻo kiʻekiʻe. Akā, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe iho e hoʻomaopopo i ka wā e pono ai ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ego a i ka wā e pono ai ʻoe e mahalo. No kou maikaʻi i kekahi mea, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻino a nānā haʻahaʻa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. E aʻo e hoʻokaʻawale i kēia ego a hoʻokuʻu iā ia i ka wā e pono ai ʻoe.
Nā puke i manaʻo ʻia no ka poʻe introvert
ʻAʻole e kōkua kēia mau puke iā ʻoe e lanakila i ka introversion no ka maikaʻi, akā kōkua pū kekahi iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo. Ke hoʻomaopopo ʻole ʻoe i kekahi mea, hoʻoweliweli ia iā ʻoe.
No laila, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka luʻu ʻana i loko o ka lua rabbit, heluhelu i nā puke aʻe, a hoʻomaopopo.
Manaʻo wau e heluhelu i kēia mau puke ʻekolu ma ke ʻano o luna. Aia nā puke like ʻole gazillion no nā introverts a ma ke kamaʻilio. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo kēia kaʻu mau koho 3 kiʻekiʻe.
He mea pono e heluhelu. A pehea e lanakila ai i nā hoaaloha a hoʻoikaika i nā kānaka he mea hoʻohui, akā he mea koʻikoʻi ia e kōkua iā ʻoe e puka i waho o kāu wahi hōʻoluʻolu. E hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe e hana i nā ʻanuʻu a kū i nā pilikia i ʻōlelo ʻia ma Crucial Conversation and Quiet.
Panina
ʻOiai he paʻakikī ka hoʻokomo ʻana i loko o kahi kaiāulu extroverted, e hoʻomanaʻo mau ʻaʻole e lilo i kanaka ʻaʻole ʻoe. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka hoʻohana ʻana i kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā hoʻopunipuni e kamaʻilio a pili i nā poʻe hiki ke kōkua nui a kōkua nui iā ʻoe i ka hana.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Maya Angelou, "ʻAʻohe mea hiki ke hoʻopōʻino i ka mālamalama e ʻā mai ana mai loko mai."
E manaʻoʻiʻo iā ʻoe iho a hāʻawi i kāu mea maikaʻi loa. A e like me kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai, "ʻAʻohe mea e hiki ke hoʻōki i ka introverts mai ka hana ʻokoʻa ma ka hana koe wale nō lākou."
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